I've always hated that saying-Boys Will Be Boys. I think it excuses a lot of behavior that is inappropriate. I only have one sister and did not have boys around growing up, so I'm a little clueless about boys' behavior. I do have 3 sons- ages 2, 5, and 8, but I still feel really clueless sometimes. I don't understand boy behavior and am struggling with knowing how much is okay.
I hate roughhousing and wrestling, but I know to a certain degree, that's just a part of typical boy behavior. So, I let it go a little, all the while cringing. Last night, the boys were really hyper and I was trying to let them have fun a little. I have to let it go a little, right? So, I just turned up the volume on my MP3 player and went to the kitchen to do the dishes.
My challenge is knowing how much of the hyper-roughhousing-climbing-on-each-other behavior to allow. I only allow a little for a short amount of time. Am I too uptight? Please, someone clue me in because sometimes I feel I am too uptight. I see other moms let it go a lot. When we're somewhere and kids are just wrestling, rolling around on the ground, I feel like I'm the only mom saying anything. Am I weird? How much of that is okay?
One Sunday, my son's so-called 'friend' pulled a chair under him in Primary. That's not funny to me. That's the kind of stuff that I hate, but some people say it's boys being boys. I also hate that whole grab someone's hand and make them hit themselves trick. That's lame! Am I the only one that thinks so? Also, I hate the whole pretend fighting thing or the arm twisting stuff boys do. There's a kid in my neighborhood that does that stuff to an extreme, and his parents don't say anything. They just watch and think, I don't know what... Maybe, 'he's so tough because he always wins' or 'boys will be boys.'
Like I said, I didn't grow up around boys so I'm not sure if that's the normal kind of thing you let go, knowing that they will mature one day. Or, is it the kind of thing you need to nip in the bud because it will become a defining part of their personality one day?
I would love to hear what everyone thinks. Am I too uptight? Do I need to lighten up?